Updated: Jun 6, 2022
We are a directionless, goal-seeking generation-- pursuing things that only bring temporary happiness. The constant pressure to live on the high of crushing goals is exhausting. Social media bombards us with #goals! How often do you scroll on IG and see #friendshipgoals #marriagegoals #fitnessgoals? It is easy to feel left behind when those around us seem to have it all together. The reality is that with the rising rates of anxiety and depression, achieving these socially-constructed goals is nearly impossible, when getting up and getting through the day is the primary survival goal.
Let me pause here and make something clear: I believe that setting goals are NECESSARY for success. I am, by no means, here to discourage you from setting goals! But I would like for us to take a moment to talk about the importance of setting healthy goals. Social media makes it way too easy to get caught up in living other people's lives, but we are here to talk about YOU.
Healthy goals are doing the things that make you feel satisfied, accomplished, connected, excited, happy! Not stressed, worried, or frustrated. Living a life with purpose requires investing in the things that make our soul happy!
Now it's time to set the right kind of #goals:
First of all: STOP investing your time and energy into other people's social life. If you're feeling jealous, bitter, stuck in life, or putting yourself down because you don't measure up-- then again, STOP IMMEDIATELY. You can't focus on you if your attention is on someone else.
Ask yourself right now: what are the three most important things in my life right now? Maybe it's health, family, traveling, establishing a career, etc. Invest your time and energy into the things that are important to you-- EVERYDAY!!!! If your health is important, dedicate time to exercise or cook a healthy meal.
Really tune-in into what YOU want out of life. Don't set your goals based on what someone else is doing.
Set reasonable and realistic goals. If you want to lose weight, saying, "I want to lose 50 pounds" is overwhelming. Instead, set a healthy and realistic goal of losing 4 pounds in a month. Once you've done that, bump it to 8 pounds the next month, then 12 pounds the following month. That's 24 pounds in 3 months!!
GET TO KNOW YOURSELF!
Get to know your dreams, hobbies, and interest in life! I know that is no easy task, but it's the most rewarding. I recommend journaling, drawing, or any creative expression for self-exploration. I love self-exploration journals with prompts-- they are amazing!! Below are some of my favorite: